Yes to all of this, and not to mention the extra stigma of also not being a girl who performs for male attention. The loneliness can be crushing, other women think you have an advantage and that it's okay to cut you down when in reality you have no desire to take anything from them. And can we also talk about how men do absolutely nothing to defend you or be a friend unless you act like you want to have sex with them all the time? Whatever advantage in being attractive there is I am yet to see it. Unless people think narcissists are top tier human beings and something to strive for.